Gender Fluid Jun 10, 2020 0:50:09 GMT
Post by Susan Peabody on Jun 10, 2020 0:50:09 GMT
Gender and sex are different. In 2008 I fell in love with Sandra. It was platonic (deep abiding affection). Sandra was in a wheelchair, having broken her back, and she only had one leg. But I adored her.
I was really happy but my friends and relatives were not. They all thought I was gay, but I am not. So I struggled to find my own label for what I was going through.
While my relationship with Sandra was not sexual I was the dominant one in the relationship. In other relationships I have been the passive partner. This means that I am "gender fluid."
When it comes to sex I am heterosexual. Although since my husband died I am chaste and plan to stay that way.
I tell you all this so you will not jump to judge couples even though they may look different.
Sandra and I did make one mistake according to my son. We had both been married in the court house to men we did not love. So we both fantasized about weddings. One day, we decided to celebrate our relationship with commitment vows in front of a pastor. We also had cake and friends who supported us. So we played out our fantasies. It was fun, but almost everyone condemmed us.
Five years after I met her as a volunteer in a nursing home, Sandra committed suicide because of the pain in her back, and I went on to marry Frank. But Sandra will always remain the love of my life because, we laughed and played together in a way I never could with anyone else. She was the best friend I never had when I was a child. She was the first person whoever loved me.